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Mornings with Mom

December 19, 2016

Maybe my morning conversations with my mother aren’t why you came here today but sometimes my mother says something that makes me stop so hard and think so hard that I feel like I have to share it.

You may not need to read it, or ponder it, or share it but I’m so grateful for, and look so forward to my morning calls with her that my day feels wonky without them. Most of the time we just catch up on the day before or talk about what we have to do today. On days we’re feeling particularly silly we solve (in no serious manner) the world’s problems and then laugh hysterically grateful in the knowledge that no one will ever ask us just how to solve them. But then some mornings more serious matters need addressing…

Me: I don’t understand Mom — the doctors said she could have recovered had she just tried to help herself — if she would have just gotten up. Why wouldn’t she? She always seemed so strong. She controlled everyone around her — they did whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted it. Why would she just…give up?

Mom: “You’re confusing being controlling with strength. What if what happened, in the end, is that after all those years of getting everyone to do everything she wanted — to do everything for her — is that she never needed her own strength and then when she needed it, when it was all on her, and no one could do it for her, and she needed to pull herself up and out, she just didn’t have it?…”

Me: Mom…I love you. Same time tomorrow?

Good morning everyone. I hope you have an awesome day and for goodness sakes let’s only try to control ourselves. 😉

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7 Comments

  • Reply Lynnie December 19, 2016 at 11:33 am

    Sounds like your mom knows what she is talking about. A very smart woman there. I hope you are having a great day.

    • Reply Kalebra December 19, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      Haha! I dig her. And, I am. I hope you are too, Lynnie. 🙂

  • Reply Gela December 19, 2016 at 10:10 pm

    Wow I didn’t know your mother was Confucius. Very wise.

    • Reply Kalebra December 20, 2016 at 11:53 am

      Hahaha! She’s actually better than that Gela because I have access to her and she’s gentle, kind and never pushy. She’s just talking and you can take what you want. She’s only offering conversation and I like that about her. Also, just a reminder that this was a specific conversation about a specific person and may not be true for everyone in that situation. 😉

  • Reply Steve Kalman December 21, 2016 at 7:46 am

    Wow, just wow

    Greetings from Maui. Had lunch at Mamas yesterday.

    • Reply Kalebra December 21, 2016 at 7:49 am

      One of my favorite places to be!! I love the food (of course) but the atmosphere and beach just make you want to hang out and never leave — so happy you went and thank you for sharing that with me — put a smile on my face. 🙂

  • Reply Erica (rannylouise) January 10, 2017 at 11:13 am

    *heart emoji*

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